Thinking Outside the Box to Decorate and Setup Your Home
The world says we women waste our worth, talents and possibilities on the home. I used to think this way too. It seemed that the fun was out THERE, not in HERE. But if these times have taught us anything it’s that home should be a haven.
A place to break bread, to cry, to reflect, to rest and to just be ourselves with all of our walls down. Think of all the times you have walked into a home CREATED with love. A home full of warmth, peace and care.
But with time and money short for so many of us, how do we begin to create a meaningful beautiful home?
Creating Our Peaceful Home Atmosphere
Could you feel it?
I have can notice tangible feeling of a home atmosphere that has been intentionally created.
More than decor and function…a kind of home that gives the dweller and the guest something that is hard to put into words.
As women we get the opportunity to CREATE this haven. Wow, what an honor, what a responsibility and what a challenge. Being a home-MAKER and home-CREATER for my family doesn’t feel like a “less than” task any longer.
In fact it feels like a challenge that calls me to lean in. A challenge that requires my creativity, courage, love and hard work.
Obstacle of Time and Money with Decorating
And yet, I always seem to be waiting on the time and money to magically align to fix up or CREATE my home.
Using the “when I get enough _____, then I will fix that space up.” And with 4 kids 7 and under, it is truly rare for those two commodities to come into my life at the same time. I knew that I had to try to figure out how to create a beautiful home with little to no money or time.
I walk around my house and see a million possible projects. Spaces that need something new, spaces that feel completely undone and spaces that totally lack function and beauty.
But then I realized cleaning, decluttering, organizing and even dreaming about using the space in a new way is all free.
The Home and All It Should Be
DIY shows show what seem like instant fixer ups. Then it is easy to see beautiful layouts in magazines in which no real person lives. It all feels so over the top and easy.
When I let myself fall into the comparison trap mixed with my tendency to go “all or nothing” I quickly feel like punting on trying at all on my house forward.
But I know that the beauty and the function of my home matters. It REALLY matters. Home is where we are 90% of the time. I knew that when I had kids, that I didn’t want my home to be a pit-stop, just to return back “out there.”
Instead, I want my home to be a place where love, change, community, learning and safety is experienced and felt. Home is the place that should help you and me become the people we long to be. But what is really holding us back from the focused effort of creating a peaceful beautiful home we love?
For me more than money or time it seems to be lack of focus…
How to Focus on a Home Project Until it is Done?
I may walk in the room to grab the cleaning spray, to see a spilled cup on the floor, to realize there are no more rags in the drawer, to smell a dirty diaper and boom 15 minutes are gone and I never recover my memory of WHY I originally walked into the kitchen.
I love my life and this is a season, so I have had to brainstorm really hard on HOW to create a beautiful home with some circumstantial cards stacked against me.
This is where the 12 x 12 Challenge idea was born!
12 x 12 Home Challenge-One Space x One Month
What if I only took one SPACE and focused on it fully for one MONTH. At the end of a year I would have 12 transformed spaces! And in the past year of a little piddling here and a little focused piddling there I certainly did not have 12 transformed spaces.
I also realized that it was not going to take a bunch of money to transform a space.
Cleaning, decluttering, organizing and even using paint I already own or decor I already own in a reimagined way is all FREE! And it all makes a huge difference! Also, simply rethinking the space in its function and beauty is huge.
Becoming the People We Long to be by Strategically Creating Life-Changing Nudges
Since reading Tech-Wise Family a couple of years ago our family has strategically tried to create our spaces in a way that nudges us to be the people we want to be.
Here are some examples of how we have used nudges recently or in the past:
-Hung the guitar in the room we want to have acoustic family worship
-Put the TV in an out of the way room to encourage us to really think through screen time
-Put my screen charging station downstairs in the guest room so it isn’t the first thing that greets me in the morning
-Laid out our Bible and journal in the spot where we will have our morning quiet time
I believe that even if we rethought the spaces we are working on each month with nudges in mind that it can make a big difference in the effectiveness of that space.
Maybe it is a formal dining room that gets used 3 times a year, but besides that it collects dust. What if we converted that space into a homeschool room or a craft room with a setup for your aspiring painter. The sky’s the limit, but truly our homes should serve us and not the other way around.
I have also noticed that if there are certain spaces in my house set-up for that “thing” I really want the kids to do, they will more than likely do it. My husband and I joke about calling these little “parenting traps” that our kids fall into.
Here are some of my favorite “Parenting Traps” I have used lately
They are all easy and free based upon what you already have
-Checkers game set-up ready to play on the dining room
-Color pencils in a glass jar set by some fresh paper
-A blanket fort made when they wake up in the living room
-Cornhole setup outside with the bean bags laying on the set
-A basketball sitting beside the basketball goal
-Warm clothes, socks, boots and mittens all laid out by the side door for a cold day
I hope these examples get your wheels turning. That maybe for the first time you can think outside the box on how your space can serve you and your kids.
That by dreaming creatively about some nudges and parenting traps you can begin to set up your space for little time and money.
But what if you still feel short on time or focus to undertake such a significant task?
If I hear so many young moms talk about a fuzzy foggy distracted mind. It is super common to have our attention constantly spread so think that focus seems elusive. But focusing overtime little by little is how we are really going to accomplish our goals.
I really love the quote, “Dripping water hallows the stone.”-Ovid.
The needle is not moved by big efforts here and there. But rather, it is the simple efforts and habits that really change our reality.
“Dripping water hollows the stone.”Ovid
Also, it isn’t the dripping water at a million different spots that hollow the stone. But rather the concentrated drip in the same place that makes a difference in the change of the stone.
What if we gave a concentrated effort of our focus into one space of our home? What if we gave that effort for a whole 30 days as time allowed? 10, 20 or 30 minutes here and there can really transform the space.
This method keeps me from using mental energy to figure out WHAT space I am going to work on. The dreaded decision fatigue is removed. I know when I get a 20 minute window I can bust a move in that one space.
After all, getting started is the hardest part.
Get Started with the Free 12 x 12 Home Challenge Facebook Group
This work is not done overnight, it is little by little, so we need encouragement for that kind of journey!
So let’s start now, so at the end of this month and this year we will have NEW spaces.